Save Your Relationship And Be Happy Again

How Can I Save My Relationship When Breaking Up Was A Huge Mistake?

“How can I save my relationship?”  It’s one of the questions I receive most when I consult with clients going through a breakup.  After all, the pain of finding out that someone you love more than anyone suddenly wants out of your life is immensely overwhelming.

When you care about someone deeply and feel you’ve put your entire heart and soul into the relationship, a breakup is devastating.  Maybe you understand why it’s happening.  Maybe things have been rocky for a long, long time and you’ve just never been able to fix them.  Maybe you’re the only one trying to fix them.

Other times, you may not understand at all why your lover suddenly wants out of the relationship.  Sometimes a breakup hits you out of nowhere.  You’ve spent the last 6 months thinking everything is fine, but then your partner suddenly tells you they’ve just been “going through the motions” for 6 months and aren’t truly happy.  Talk about a gut-punch!

So what can you do when you want to stay together and save your relationship?

The first task is to always figure out if getting back together is truly what you want.  Sometimes, we want to get back together just because it feels miserable being alone.  Some people would rather be with anyone rather than be single, even if that certain someone isn’t a good match for them.  The hurt and despair following a breakup sometimes makes us want to get back together even when we know deep down it’s not a good idea.

So, first and foremost, you need to give yourself time away from your ex to figure out what you truly want.  Acting when emotions are at their peak is a sure recipe for disaster.

If, after reflection, you do decide you want your ex back and you want to save your relationship, then don’t despair.  It’s definitely possible to get your ex back.  In fact, it’s possible to have a much better relationship than you ever had before.  Sometimes a breakup is necessary before two people truly “get it” and see just how much their words or actions are negatively impacting their partner.

I’m a big believer in “keeping with the times”, and today text messaging is one of the most predominant forms of communication we have.  Rather than balk at technology, why not use it to your advantage?  We must adapt because when the way we communicate changes, we can’t expect to use the same old school strategies of the past to repair our relationships.

I think text messages, when used effectively, are one of the best ways to reconnect with your ex quickly.  Use them in the right way, and they can definitely help save your relationship.

Michael Fiore, author of Text Your Ex Back and Text The Romance Back, says,

“Text Judo” is the art of using your ex’s existing emotions–positive or negative–to get the positive result you want.

In physical Judo, the martial artist uses an opponent’s strength against him, redirecting the violence and momentum of a punch, kick, or lunge so that the attacker ends up in a bruised and battered pile on the floor. The Judo master expends very little of her own energy. Instead, she relies on the energy of her opponent.

A really good Judo practitioner at work is a sight to behold. A 5-foot- tall woman can throw a 6-foot 5-inch linebacker around like a rag doll if the woman knows BALANCE while the linebacker knows nothing but POWER.

Now, the tricky part is this: strong negative emotion is like a linebacker’s punch. Right now, it’s headed for your soft bits. You need to take that emotion and redirect it so it’s headed somewhere productive. In Judo, this would be to leaving your opponent groaning on the floor. In Text Your Ex Back, it’s getting back together.”

Taken from Text Your Ex Back – Learn more at

The texting process Michael Fiore refers to as “text judo” is very powerful and a great way to save your relationship after a breakup.  Does it work 100% of the time?  Of course not.  Sometimes getting back together is a horrible idea, and sometimes you realize half-way through the process that you’re better off without your ex.

But text judo is a fantastic way to turn your ex’s negative emotions into positive ones.  And if you want to save your relationship, getting your ex to view you again in a positive light means you’ve already won half the battle.

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5 Of The Worst Foods To Eat For Weight Loss

If you’re trying to lose weight but aren’t getting the results you want, look to the food you’re eating. Some foods are obviously bad for you. Others are often classified as “health foods” but secretly cause you to gain pounds.

Some of the worst foods to eat for weight loss, like junk food and processed meats, are well known, but there are others you might not be aware of. The good news is, even small changes to your diet can have a profound effect on your weight. Take a look below at some trouble foods and consider removing them from your diet.

Whole Fat Dairy

Dairy products considered to be “full-fat” (whole milk products) can cause weight gain when consumed regularly. For example, one eight-ounce glass of whole milk is about 149 calories. If you’re on a 1,500-calorie diet, that one beverage can harm your weight loss efforts.

Try switching to low or no-fat dairy products. That same glass replaced with skim milk is only 83 calories. Just remember, don’t completely remove fat from your diet. Your body needs fat. Without it, you die. It’s also wise to stick to “grass fed” dairy products.


This should be an obvious one, but there are still a lot of people who don’t want to admit their soda habit is actually causing them to gain weight or preventing them from dropping pounds. Dietitians and physicians agree soda should be completely eliminated from everyone’s diets. It offers no nutritional value and is packed with sugar which can contribute significantly to weight gain.

Processed Baked Goods

Sweets, in general, can keep you from losing weight, but prepackaged baked goods are even worse because they are heavily processed. These types of baked goods are packed with sugar and have a high amount of preservatives to keep them shelf-stable. They’re hard to digest and are high in calories, too. If you find yourself craving something sweet, pick up a piece of fruit instead.

Stick Margarine

Substitute soft spreads or small amounts of butter for stick margarine to increase your chances of losing those unwanted pounds.


Many people snag a bagel first thing in the morning, but that’s not a great way to start off your day if you want to lose weight. There are plenty of people who believe all carbs are the enemy, but that isn’t necessarily true. You just need to stick to carbohydrates that don’t tend to spike blood sugar levels (low glycemic index foods). Bagels are high on the glycemic index and basically turn to sugar once your body digests them.

These are just a few of the worst foods to eat for weight loss. There are plenty of others, and if you want to eat as healthy as possible, a good food reference is invaluable to have on hand every time you hit the grocery store.

An excellent one is called “Let Jesus Take The Grocery Cart” and is included as part of the Salvation Diet by Chris Walker. This handy list can easily be printed out and used as a grocery list, so you never make poor food choices when you’re out shopping. Learn more about the Salvation Diet at

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4 Unusual Ways To Cure Diabetes Naturally At Home

One of the most common health issues today is diabetes. According to the National Diabetes Statistics Report, the disease affected 29.1 million Americans in 2012, up from 25.8 million in 2010.

The report also lists diabetes as the 7th most common cause of death in the United States, with 69,071 deaths in 2010 officially attributed to the disease. Despite increased awareness, these numbers continue to rise.

Those diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes face a number of decisions related to the way they live their lives. If you have diabetes, it is necessary to re-think your diet and exercise regimen in order to control and even reverse the disease. Even WebMD suggests the reversal of diabetes is possible with the right approach.

In addition to healthy lifestyle choices, diabetes medications can also be taken. However, natural remedies are more beneficial for the body and are worth trying before you commit to side-effect-ridden drugs. Read the reviews at for physical and dietary solutions that are completely natural, safe, and effective at treating diabetes.

Now, let’s examine 4 unusual ways to cure diabetes naturally at home. These can be used as part of a diabetes treatment regimen to help you manage and eliminate symptoms.


Acupuncture is the process of inserting thin needles into the skin to trigger the body to release natural painkillers. Men and women with chronic conditions often receive regular acupuncture treatments to help alleviate pain. As it relates to diabetes, acupuncture helps reduce painful nerve damage brought on by diabetic neuropathy.


Some studies suggest Chromium supplements increase glucose tolerance, helping to improve the positive effects of insulin. Therefore, they are useful in blood sugar control. However, chromium is not currently recommended by many health institutions as its influence on diabetes is not yet fully understood.

Plant Foods

WebMD acknowledges brewer’s yeast, buckwheat, broccoli, cinnamon, cloves, coffee, okra, peas, fenugreek, and sage as natural plant foods that can be used as treatments for type 2 diabetes.

These are all fiber-rich and full of the many vitamins and minerals that are invaluable to those with diabetes. Plant foods reduce inflammation and encourage insulin production.

Weight Loss Treatments

Diabetes is often linked to obesity. Therefore, natural weight loss therapies and treatments are beneficial for many diabetics. These remedies may include chitosan, hydroxicitric acid, pyruvate, Chinese bitter melon, germander, sweet leaf bush, or aristolochic acid.

Before trying any of the natural remedies listed above, it is important to consult a doctor or health professional. They can advise you on an individual basis to help identify which diabetes treatment is right for you and can monitor your overall health in case unwanted side effects arise.

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3 Easy Ways To Motivate Yourself To Lose Weight

It’s that time again. Time to pull the bathing suit out of the closet and give yourself that critical once-over in the mirror. It’s summer time!

For many men and women, this is the time they dread the most. The time of judgment and scorn, not so much from other people, but from the negative thoughts within their own heads.

Look, we’ve all been there. You make a plan, you tell yourself you’re definitely going to stick to it this time, and then you cheat. Once, then twice, then the plan is completely forgotten and you’re back to giving yourself long, accusatory stares in the mirror.

In the end, it all comes down to motivation…or lack thereof. And with that being the case, what are some of the best ways to motivate yourself to lose weight?

First and foremost, you need to find your own motivation, and lose weight for the reasons that matter most to you. But you can still get help, too! There are actually a number of things you can do that are clinically proven to help you achieve your weight loss goals.

So let’s briefly discuss some time-tested ways to motivate yourself to lose weight, get fit, and get your confidence back!

1. Do It For Yourself

Here’s the hard truth: if you’re losing weight simply for the sake of what others might think of your body currently, then you probably aren’t going to reach any of the goals you’ve set for yourself. The reality is that unless your desire for weight loss is motivated by something healthy, by a need to get fit for yourself and no one else, chances are that your plans are doomed to failure at the outset.

Make sure you want to lose weight for the right reasons. If you’re concerned about your health, great. If you’re concerned about your mobility, great. If you’re only concerned about judgmental looks from strangers on the beach…well, never say never, but a desire that springs from something internal rather than external is going to have a higher chance of manifesting success.

2. Set Realistic Goals

Don’t starve yourself! All of the latest cleanses and starvation diets add up to one thing in the long-run: disappointment. Well, disappointment and potentially serious health problems down the line.

Set attainable goals for yourself, and don’t reach too high too fast. If you decide you’d like to drop 20 pounds, then give yourself the required amount of time to do it in a healthy, efficient manner. Make losing 1 pound your first goal, not 20. Then, go from there.

How do you eat an elephant? One bite at a time. It works the same way with weight loss. You lose weight by dropping 1 pound at a time, not 20, so make losing 1 pound your first goal. Then, go from there.

3. Create A Daily Plan

Don’t just start out with no real rhyme or reason to your diet and workout routine. Make yourself a detailed and descriptive chart that walks you through your daily routine. You’ll have a much higher chance of sticking to the plan if you know exactly what you’re going to eat and when, and exactly what kind of exercise you plan on engaging in, and when.

If it sounds difficult to figure out for yourself, then follow a proven diet and/or fitness plan that already lays everything out for you, step-by-step. The Fat Diminisher System by Wesley Virgin is one that has become extremely popular over this past year, due to both its ease of use and its effectiveness.

Get yourself a calendar and design a realistic system based entirely upon your own, personal weight loss goals. People who write things down are far more likely to achieve their goals, than people who simply try and “wing it”.

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Using Your Voice To Turn Her On

Maybe you’re already in a long-term relationship or maybe you first got her digits at the bar last night. Either way, today’s discussion about using your voice to turn her on will help you.

Depending on your specific situation, the technical application might differ, but there are a few time-tested tricks you can use to influence her thinking and how she responds to you. If you’re looking to turn a woman on with your voice alone, there are a number of techniques you can employ to make that happen.

Using your voice to turn her on can be a complex process. You don’t want to come off as too brazen or forward and send her running for the hills, but you also want to let her know that you’re interested and comfortable with what might otherwise be considered more taboo subjects, like sex. Video 5 of the Girlfriend Activation System V2, titled “Nick Sparks on Sexuality”, gives some excellent insights and techniques on how to take an interaction with a woman and escalate it sexually. So check that out.

Now, let’s discuss a few of the better ways to turn a woman on using your voice alone.

1. Talk To Her

I know what you’re thinking: duh! But what I mean is you need to speak with her in person. This is absolutely the most effective way to convey the subtlety of your message without being misinterpreted or misunderstood.

The absolute worst way to approach a woman you don’t know very well is over text message. There’s nothing wrong with texting a little bit. In fact, flirting back and forth over text is pretty socially expected these days.

But if you’re still walking the razor’s edge between flirty and frightening, then I’d suggest staying away from any risqué conversation before the two of you have a chance to get to know each other a little better. It’s so easy for written communication to be misinterpreted, partly because the receiving party doesn’t have the benefit of inflection and facial expressions which help to clarify intent.

Using your voice to turn her on over the phone is fine, too, and you probably won’t be misunderstood, but you lose the added benefits of eye contact and body language. These can greatly increase the efficacy of what you say, so try to talk with her in person when you’re first starting out.

2. Make Your Intentions Clear

Open with a compliment, or a flattering remark. Don’t come off creepy – keep the comment lighthearted, casual, and funny if possible. Something off-the-cuff is most effective, but don’t insult her. Make it clear that you’re interested, so you don’t get relegated to the friend zone.

Be sure to make eye contact as you speak with her. This indicates you’re confident enough as a man to be appreciative of her beauty without being uncomfortable about it. And, as most women will tell you, there’s nothing sexier than a man with confidence.

3. Be Genuinely Interested In Her

A seldom talked about turn on for women is interest. These days, most people don’t know how to hold a normal conversation. More often than not, they’re just waiting for the other person to stop talking in order to start speaking, themselves.

So ask your lady something meaningful, and be genuinely interested in her reply. Use your voice to respond with follow-up questions to show you’re paying attention. You’d be surprised what kind of impression something so simple can make.